1. Do not call people before 10 am or after 10 pm.
This was always our rule when we were little. We weren’t supposed to make or receive phone calls from friends before or after these times. To do this day, I get nervous before I call some people even if it’s 9:58 am.
2. Girls do not call boys. They wait for the boy to call them.
I never called a guy. He always had to call me first. I appreciated it (eventually.) And you guessed it, if I have girls, I don’t care, they aren’t calling the boys. Call me old fashioned.
3. Always, always go on a trip on spring break or in the summer.
Every summer or spring break I was in college I went on a trip, from South Padre Island one year to Spain a few years after that. She always said that these were the kind of trips you wouldn’t be able to do once you got married & had kids. The best trip she encouraged me to go on? Mexico. I met Todd there.
4. Be confident! Be yourself!
My mother is a STRONG woman! I am probably over confident thanks to her. 🙂 And in the moments when I had self doubt she was always there to build me back up. Learning to be yourself is a hard, hard lesson to learn. But it was one of the best things I ever figured out!
5. Education gets you places.
My mom had a law degree, but gave up a potentially amazing law career to be a SAHM to 5 kids. But she taught her girls (and boys) the value of education. It wasn’t “Are you going to go to college?” It was “Where are you going to go to college?”
6. Never give up.
Perfect example of this: I was in the 7th grade. I slacked off on a rebound during a basketball game. My mom stood up & yelled across the gym, “Kate! That was yours.” Later, she told me she didn’t want me to give up when the going got hard. To keep fighting! That rule has been applied so many times throughout my life in much more important situations than sports.
7. Treat people with dignity & respect.
I think that one is pretty self-explanatory. And I’ve been known to mess up on this, a lot. But I try really hard to focus on other people & not just myself.
8. God made red tulips & God made yellow tulips. Aka: No one is the same.
I used to complain about my sister being so different than me when we were little. I just didn’t understand why she & I didn’t like the same things. So we would fight. And my mom would always say “God made red tulips & God made yellow tulips. You & Maryann are different, but loved the same.” She taught me that each of us being unique is what is so wonderful about us all.
9. Marriage & Child-rearing are hard. But worth it!
My mom definitely told no lies on these two. There were no surprises when I got married or when I had Lboy. I knew exactly what to expect!
10. Hard work will get you where you want to be…that and a lot of prayer!
Being a mom, a wife, & finding time to be myself are all very hard things to do. They would be virtually impossible without this last lesson.
A HUGE Thanks to Mama Kat for putting my post “My Neighbor Tommy” in her newsletter this week as one of her favorite posts from last week’s writing prompts! This was an extremely special post about a very special person. To have it recognized by Mama Kat was the icing on the cake!