Just like Clark Kent had a secret identity & was Superman, we mom bloggers have our own “secret” identities & they reside in the blogosphere.
You meet someone new, they ask if you work or about the things you do outside of motherhood. You sort of work, but not really, but you do spend a lot of time online, forging connections, meeting other people, networking, going to conferences, tweeting out for help on potty training, diaper rash, & depserate cries for #wineparty after long parenting weeks!
But when it comes to meeting someone new in real life, we keep our blogging life a secret, at least for a little while. It can be from a nervousness that they are going to think you are absolutely crazy, because we don’t want our families to know we are telling stories about them online, or we don’t want our bosses to find our most intimate life details.
But honestly? I rather enjoy having this “secret identity.”
Superman, was awesome, but he was no mom blogger, that’s for dang sure.
What was it that people used to always say about him?
“Faster than a speeding bullet, more powerful than a locomotive, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound! Look! Up in the sky, it’s a bird, it’s a plane, No! It’s SUPERMAN!”
But for us Mommy Bloggers, who have our own set of super powers & Kryptonites (hello, major diaper blowouts & public meltdowns!), we have our own saying too:
“She can tweet faster than a speeding bullet, she’s got Klout more powerful than a locomotive, she’s able to leap writer’s block in a single bound! Look, it’s a chef, it’s a chauffeur, NO, IT’S A MOM BLOGGER!”
We Mom Bloggers forge a pretty strong bond in the blogosphere, from our blogs to our twitter parties, & I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m thinking that all we need now, is a symbol that allows we mom bloggers to recognize each other in public, because I’d really, really like to have a #wineparty in real life with you ladies!
**Non-mom bloggers have some rockin’ blogging super powers too!**
How much do you love your “secret” blogging superpower?!
Alison@Mama Wants This says
I love love love my secret identity heh.
No one in my family knows I have a blog other than my sister & one brother. I don’t really care if they read it or not, it’s not for them 🙂 My friends do know, and they’re all very supportive, but they don’t read it either. And that’s okay too.
I love this post!! Yes, a secret sign! How cool would that be?
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Rach (DonutsMama) says
I totally get this! I feel like I have 2 different identities–one real world, one virtual. My family constantly asks what I’m doing on the computer all the time. I tell them I’m checking my email!
Carri says
Ha. I’ve told everyone about my blog. I’m shameless like that! 😉
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Karen @ Time Crafted says
Love, love, Love this! Yeah, I don’t often share with those in real life that I’m blogging. Close friends and immediate family know, but the most of the rest of my real world peeps don’t. And there are so many fantastically awesome peeps online, that is mighty okay with me! :> And I would most certainly love to #wineparty with you for real too!
jackie says
Love this post! My husband, sister and mother know about my blog, but none of them read it. I wanted them to when I first told them about it, but now, I really don’t care. As for the rest of my family and friends, a lot of times I want to tell them because I just want it out in the open already, but then I don’t because I know they’re going to think I’m crazy and really won’t understand why I blog.
Kimberly says
I love this! Other than my husband, nobody in my real life knows that I have a blog or spend hours every day on Twitter. I kind of like it that way, but at the same time I don’t really care if they found it either.
And meeting you guys in person? I would LOVE to!!!
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MandyE says
Love it! I have to remind myself sometimes not to say, “So I was reading this blog,” or, “This blogger friend of mine.” I’ve discovered the unindoctrinated can find that a little weird! Since I discovered blogging a year and a half ago, though, it’s been odd to me that there aren’t more of us SuperMommy Bloggers out there. Those poor ladies don’t know what they’re missing! 🙂
A Mommy in the City says
This is amazing! I totally understand what you are getting at. There are so many times that I don’t know what to tell people when they ask what I do. And the people I do tell give me a strange look and don’t “get it.” I think an IRL #wineparty is a MUST!!
Natalie says
Ha ha you are so right…I find myself having to restrain from talking about blogging and what I read on a blog..all.the.time. We do need a secret sign! 🙂
Stephanie says
I have not made a secret of my blog, even used to let people know on my personal Facebook page whenever I had a new post. But no one was interested, or read. Now I don’t bother. They know I have one and where to find me if they want to 🙂 I do find it hard not to talk about the friends I’ve made online, but when I do I can see in their eyes that they don’t get how I can be friends with someone that I have never met face to face. I also kind of don’t like using IRL, because to me this is real life, just a different part of real life 🙂
Like the sign you made 🙂 Awesome!
Courtney @ The Mommy Matters says
I love being a mom blogger. My family knows I blog, and pretty much everyone I’m friends with on Facebook. But I don’t share it with new people I meet in real life. People on the “outside” just don’t get it. They don’t get the connections, the opportunities and the friendships formed through blogging.
Jessica says
Once you get that secret symbol figured out let me know and I’ll tattoo it on my shoulder. I think it will look classy.
Hannah says
lol! This is hilarious! I don’t tell people I am a blogger! In-fact I don’t think any of my friends in Wichita know I blog. I love blogging though! I am not as good at it as you! You have real super powers my friend!
Lady Jennie says
Capes? Red satin capes? Would that do? (and white patent leather Wonder Woman boots)
Erin Patchell says
LOL!
I’m pretty sure my family and friends (and their friends and family) are actually the only people who read my blog on a regular basis… and it still weirds me out that they’ve already heard all the stories I’d normally blather about ad nauseum in advance.
Sometimes I wish I had a secret identity so I could talk about the really crazy shit that I don’t want my family to hear and not sugarcoat all my expletives. Dognamnuggit!
Natalie says
Agreed! Now we all just need to get capes… 😉
Jessica says
I would like a magic wand too.
Love this, it is funny how often I have to keep myself from talking about my blog or someone else’s when I meet new moms.
Tough Cookie Mommy says
I used to be very secretive about my blogging, however, I have noticed that I am sharing the information with a lot more people now. It probably has to do with being proud of all of the work that I put into my blog and that I am finally seeing the fruits of my labor.
Sammie Love says
Thank you for this post! I was writing about Why I Write in my blog the Musings and Ramblings of Sammie Love the other day (see http://wp.me/s1E0Kq-life ). My work life is very conservative and my writing and or views are my own. But your blog gets to the heart of the importance of being a blogger and the importance of self expression. There is nothing like meeting a fellow blogger and “connecting” with their experiences. I love socializing at wineparty and at #soulchat.
Laura in Cancun says
Awesome post! 🙂 I’m not a mom, but I like to think I have a few super powers of my own
tracy@sellabitmum says
We need something more fashionable than capes. Let me work on this.
Paulette says
So love it! I mean, it’s something is so very my own. Hubby may not get it but he understands my need/desire to have it.
This may be the best quote/motto ever!
“She can tweet faster than a speeding bullet, she’s got Klout more powerful than a locomotive, she’s able to leap writer’s block in a single bound! Look, it’s a chef, it’s a chauffeur, NO, IT’S A MOM BLOGGER!â€
cam says
you are so right about it all. i’ve had people from work comment on stuff that i’ve never told them – they read my blog! it’s odd. it makes me think twice about how much i want to share. the mommy blogging community is so cool and i’m happy to be a part of it. You ladies ROCK!
Chaton says
I thought that I was the only one with this secret! I intentionally withhold by blogging from some family members in case I portray them in an unfavorable light! Signed in MBP (“Mommy Blogging Power”) (Please visit my blog at: http://chatonsworld.blogspot.com.
Runnermom-jen says
Hahaha!! This is awesome! So true!! And I’d love to meet up with all of you mom bloggers in real life…we’d all have so much fun!!
Galit Breen says
Love this lady! And seriously how great would a real wine party be?! XO
Angela says
I want a cape with “Super Blogger” on the back. I think I want it to be pink. Or blue. Or both.
Anyway, this is a great post. Just like being a mommy is a super power, being a blogger is a super power all on its own too. I’m able to tell many tales from spit up to snark, and I love it!
C @ Kid Things says
I think I’d like a mask, too. It’d be kind of like Batman.
Nobody in “real life” knows I keep a blog. And I don’t really know why I feel so secretive about it, but I do. My 7yo son sometimes sneaks up on my laptop as I’m typing, and I even shoo him away, when I’m sometimes even writing about him. They’ll get to read it one of these days.
Teresa says
Great post! So true.
Leighann says
This is so true.
I feel the same way. I keep what I do as a hobby to myself because I don’t want anyone at work to know or certain friends to know.
It’s easier that way.
Also, I like my online friends better than some of my IRL friends.
Optimistic Mom says
Great post. I can totally relate! You see my real name is not Optimistic Mom….. But I would probably respond to it. Lol I share my blog with people if I think they might be interested. However it’s only a handful of people.
It would be fun to have a way to recognize other bloggers. 🙂