Let me tell you about the time I told Todd that we were pregnant with Lboy. It wasn’t pretty….
I had been expecting a positive pregnancy test. We weren’t planning on having a baby any time soon, but I just knew that I was & was convincing myself that I wasn’t. I avoided taking a pregnancy test for three weeks because I didn’t want to KNOW that I was pregnant–forget the fact that I was vomiting three times a day, having terrible cramps, & sleeping all the time. I was in straight up denial.
I went home to take my grandmother to the hospital for an MRI test or something like that. I had to take a visit to the bathroom for another lovely puking fest & when I came back that’s when my mother grabbed me by the shoulders & walked me into the hospital’s pharmacy and said “Buy the test.” I went back to the bathroom, took the test, & the rest is history.
At which point I immediately called Todd. He was working as a bank teller at the time & happened to be with customers when I called. Somehow I managed to say the words, “I’m pregnant.” And the only response I got was dead air. Then I got a slightly calm, slightly hysterical, “Are you serious?” In my head I’m thinking, “No, I”m not serious. I thought it would be fun to call you up at the busiest time of the day & tell you that you are going to be a father & then I’m going to bust out with HAHA JUST KIDDING. Yes I’m serious.” Instead, all I could manage was a simple “Uh-huh.”
And then he didn’t speak.to.anyone for three days. There was no jumping up & down. There was no whooping & hollering that he was going to be a dad. There was no yee-hawing about this being the best news ever. Obviously, he eventually got happy, but it was rough there for a long while (I seriously have PTSD about ever having to tell him that I’m pregnant in the future. I’m only slightly joking.) My mother had actually forewarned me that some men (aka my father) react this way to the baby news. It’s not so much that they are disappointed or unhappy, it’s just shocking to the system that now you have to actually “grow up” beyond just paying the bills (it was hard for me too.)
So yesterday, when I called his mother to see if she would come down & watch Lboy because I wasn’t feeling well she asked if I was pregnant. I told her no & laughed because I knew that’s what she was thinking. I am psychic after all.
Later, I was on the phone with Todd & told him that his mom asked if I was preggo. I thought it was funny. He didn’t so much. All he said was, “You aren’t are you?” And then I was met with dead air. I swear I heard his heart stop beating through the phone.
The two teeny, tiny, little words that strike fear into a man’s heart are “I’m pregnant.” And the second phrase that scares
the shit the crud out of Todd, “I’m ready for another baby.” Cause yeah, he’s been getting that a lot lately too. (:
What are your stories of telling your man that you were pregnant? How did it go–better or worse than mine?
|Here we had known we were pregnant for about 6 weeks–I was still sick as a dog, but Todd was happy (but that could be because we were at a football game.)|
I have 2 boys aged 2 and 4 and when my partner told me she was pregnant I was over the moon with happiness as we were trying for a baby. The funny thing was when we went to tell my partners mom, she took 1 look at her daughter and said 'you are pregnant aren't you'. A mothers instinct is never wrong.
Hahahaha Kate, I'm loving this post because of the way you wrote it! I can almost picturing the look on your husband's face. Mine would freak out too by now if I tell him I'm pregnant since well we both had agree to 'close the factory' but he just haven't had any chance to get the 'factory close' yet. When I was pregnant, I couldn't look at the test kit, it was actually him who stayed in the bathroom and waited hahaha. I think the best reaction tho' was from my MIL…we emailed her the picture of the test kit and then called her (she lives in Florida). Told her to go check her email while we waited on the phone. She was screaming so loud thank goodness we put her on speaker LOL. Great post, Kate!
We tried for a while for my daughter so he was really happy, but a few months ago we had a little "scare". I swear I've never seen him pace and sweat so much in the two minutes it took for the pee stick to read "Not Pregnant".
Oh my gosh I couldn't help but laugh while I read this.
David was so happy with all of ours. When I found out I was pregnant with Allie at the beginning he was a bit stressed but he's always been very calm and handles things well and just said we'll make it work even though we weren't planning on a 4th and really were done. Then when he found out she was a girl – well it was all over then 🙂
oh lordy. The first time, we both sat and stared at the stick praying for the Plus sign. And then he goes 'what now? I think you need to lay down' I said, "um…no, I need to quit drinking!" The second time – again, we're both looking at the same time and this wasn't planned. Welcome, but not in the plan quite yet. His response? "All I wanted was a BJ!" I kid you not. His birthday 'ahem' turned into more and whala, knocked me up
We were definitely on the "holy shit" side of the spectrum, but not quite as far as you guys. 🙂
Y'all look so cute in that picture! Randy was happy and shocked when I told him. We had been trying for a year – and were about to start fertility treatments so it was a surprise… a wonderful surprise.
ericka @ alabaster cow says
matt as ecstatic but that's because we were trying. if i told him i'm pregnant now he would probably be the one with morning sickness since we only want one kid!
Don't you love how everyone just assumes you are pregnant when you don't feel well. My story sucks but you have me a brilliant idea. I will blog about it later and link back to ya. How does that sound?
When I told Tom I was pregnant with Lulu he was estatic! We jumped up and down in the kitchen together, said a little prayer of thanks giving then rushed to my parents to tell them the good news.
But with Eliza it was a different story. We had just moved, we were not ready for another child. I found out I was pregnant on his little sister's wedding day. I told him at the first chance I had to speak to him which was her reception where he was the MC. I showed him the test I said, "I'm pregnant!" He looked at me with a blank expression and walked away. After the reception he drove all over town to find a place still open that late at night that sold pregnancy test and had me take a second test just to be sure.
The first time I was met w/ a little disbelief 🙂 I just handed Lucas a Red Sox onesy and bib, and he was like…"what does this mean?????" and then he was happy, shocked, but happy. We had been not preventing for a few months, so it was inevitable!
The second time we had literally just decided to start trying, and boom, I was pregnant. Fynn gave Lucas some big brother books and Lucas just started cracking up, because it was so quick! And we kind of looked at each other, as Fynn was going crazy about something, and said "what have we done??" 🙂
This is such a cute story – and I'm sure my husband will have the same reaction when I tell him I am pregnant. We don't have any kids yet – but I've got the baby bug. So we shall see what happens over the upcoming months. 🙂
Shelby Bukhenik says
Cute picture of the two of you!
We DID not plan on out first and we were pretty much in hysterics for the first three days of finding out! I also had trouble reading the test and made him pee on one hahaha…ridiculous I know!
Honey B. says
That's hilarious! I imagine that there may be shock and nausea on Marmot's part when I tell him, regardless if he's expecting it or not…lol
Kate, every time I think of how I discovered I was pregnant with Miriam, I think of you. I tested on your birthday (1999, what were you? Ten years old? LOL!) I thought I had the flu b/c I was nauseated. I was never sick with the boys so was dead certain I wasn't pregnant, only took the test b/c I was late and thought it'd be a great way to start my period (it had worked before.) Instead, two lines popped up and I said to the stick "If I have to do this again, you BETTER be a girl!"
And then I refused to say the word "pregnant" for days. Josh eventually clued in and was fine, but I was in shock for a good few weeks.
The funny thing was – and again, you pop up in the story – on Christmas Eve, you were there with your mom and suddenly you both looked at me and asked if I was pregnant. I laughed it off, said no, etc, but on the inside, I was freaking out that you guys figured it out so quickly! Psychic, you Byrd women!
Laura@Cowboy Boots says
well i was just glad i didn't scare my hubby off when we met…i was a single mom w/3 kids…and WANTED MORE IN THE FUTURE! he didn't run but he thought that if we married…3 was ok with him…but i knew he would want a child of his own…(first marriage for him…no kids of his own) months after having lily the man was trying to knock me up again…it didn't happen until way later..haha…i'm not sure if we are done w/5 kids, but i love the getting pregnant…finding out…telling…and being pregnant part of it!
i know that the next time you tell him he will totally react diff! i can't wait for you to start adding to ur family!!!
Thanks for shrgani. Always good to find a real expert.
Aw, I love this . . . .
I was getting ready to go on the pill and was late. I didn't think I was pregnant, though. I thought my body was doing what it always did . . . psyching me out to the point that I was oh-so-hopeful, enough to take the test, have it positive, and then have my period show up the very next day. When I took the test and it was positive, I felt like crying, because we had decided I was going back on the pill. Stephen came in and I handed him the test. He was stunned, but happy, too. Loved that day.
Allyson & Jere says
It makes me a little sad in my heart that you were met with that kind of response. I don't know why.
Maybe because my husband is a complete spaz and he is the one who pushes and PUSHES to find out if I'm pregnant, or to get pregnant.
We had been married for 5 years and had never done anything to prevent getting pregnant really. But, Jer was never really ready to have kids either, so I think God knew. Anyway, one day Jer was like, "let's have a baby, I'm ready." I sort of laughed and rolled my eyes and said, "ok." I had never been regular, but for the first time in my life had had a period every month 5 months in a row. So, he said that and off we went. He had had a dreamm 2 different times that we had a baby girl. So, Thanksgiving morning I woke up to go hiking very early. He woke up, told me he'd had ANOTHER dream, and seen our daughter. He asked if I was pregnant. I assured him I was NOT. I had lost 5 lbs. that month. I wasn't sick, I just knew I wasn't. And then he went back to bed. I went to the bathroom, decided what the hell, I'll take this last test we have. I peed on the stick, set it on the counter, turned my head for like 1/2 a second and when I turned back around there it was, TWO bright pink lines. I FREAKED OUT! I was NOT prepared to see that. All I could think was, oh my gosh, what the hell are we gonna do. I might have cried, out of fear, not joy. However, when I went into the bedroom and told Jere and showed him, he squealed like a girl and couldn't contain his utter excitement. And then had to assure me that it would all be ok. We told my family that day, but kept it from his Mom and Sister until Christmas day. They wanted this baby more than us, I'm pretty sure. It was GREAT!
With Max it was such a shock and so unplanned. Maggie was only 6 months old, and I took the test on a whim. SURPRISE! I was with my bro. and sister when I found out, so they all knew before Jere. He was scared this time, but excited too.
And there you have it, longest response EVER!