When I first started blogging I was obsessed with visiting new blogs. I was also obsessed with growing that Google Connect number. Every day I would visit a new blog, follow them, comment & I would get so excited to find someone who I really like to read & hoped they would follow me back. The whole process was as addicting as a Cadbury egg.
By the beginning of fall I was getting more and more comments every day, close to 30 a post! It was so exciting to see all my hard work finally paying off. But then I lost my blog focus, it just disappeared as quickly as it had come. I quit visiting people & commenting back. I might have even gotten a little too big for my britches, as Theta Mom put it a couple of days ago. I let the 30 comments a post get to my head, I thought I well on my way to being the next Mama Kat or something. 😉
I was also VERY overwhelmed with writing, a new blog design business, my computer crashing, a husband working 60 hours a week while being a full time grad student & just life in general. I started posting subpar posts or I would do a repost everyday. Then my comments tanked to 5 or less a day.
That’s when I took a break from blogging. When I came back to blogging in November I still was hesitant about whether or not I wanted to be back (you can read all about that in my post Why I’m Burned Out.) I just refused to drive myself insane with the pressure that had been pushing me to blog. As I wrote in November, blogging had become a poorly paid job and my salary was a messy house, microwavable dinners, & an unhappy baby.
But in January, I started to have a new outlook on blogging.
I changed the focus of my blog from ME to OTHERS. I started revisiting bloggers who commented on my blog. I started visiting bloggers who never read my blog. I quit obsessing over that Google Connect Number because it doesn’t mean anything if people aren’t commenting. I started treasuring every comment even if it was 1 or 30.
I paid attention to what people said. I went back & found bloggers that I really liked who had kept reading even in my “too big for my britches faze.” I discovered new bloggers that I really liked & enjoyed reading, regardless of the fact if they read my blog or not. I set certain hours to blog & design so I wasn’t constantly on the computer throughout the day.
I started a blog frog community for Mommy Monologues so I could meet more people in the blogosphere (visit by clicking here: Mommy Monologues Blog Frog Community.)Â I started writing a Newsletter so that people would know what was going on so I could connect with them via email. I started focusing less about numbers and focusing more on actual readership. I started getting on twitter more so I could connect with people on a deeper level beyond the comment form (hello #wineparty!)
You see, what I had forgotten & had to relearn is:
With the new focus, I’ve been inspired to write fun posts, if I don’t have a good idea for a post one day, then I just don’t write, people will come back when I do have a post. If they don’t then they don’t. But I will appreciate the people who do come over regardless of who hasn’t.
Consider the lessons learned!