I’m guest posting at Angie’s at Mama Insomnia–I wrote all about the lovely awesomeness that is the Terrible Twos.
Welcome Greta from Not Enough Patience & Not Enough Jewelery! She just had her 4th kiddo! The fact that she’s capable of blogging, with 3 kids & a newborn is absolutely amazing to me!!!
Life with a newborn is tough. Yeah, of course it is. And as a mom, you probably think back on life with a newborn as a lot of eating, pooping, sleeping, and crying. But do you REALLY remember what it’s like? Probably not. If we all vividly remembered what it was like, the world might be full of parents of only children.
But I just gave birth to my fourth child under six, via c-section. He has big brother, Henry, who’s five and a half, along with two big sisters: Ivy (almost four) and Essie (almost two), all of whom are crazy about the little guy. Baby Ervin was born on March 24 and weighed in at a whopping 7 lbs 11 oz (the smallest of all of my babies). So right now, I’m right smack in the middle of life with a newborn.
Here’s a list of the wonders and mysteries of life with a teensy weensy bundle of eating, pooping bliss.
(This is just my personal experience…hopefully you can relate. I promise I’ll try not to make every item on the list about breastfeeding. Hehe)
- Speaking of breastfeeding (ha!), is there anything in the world cuter than a baby’s cheeks and nose squished up against your chest? I mean, really.
- Something that’s not so cute? Having to go to all of those early doctor’s appointments and trying to run a few errands when you literally can’t go more than a couple of hours without feeding the baby. Even if your baby sleeps through everything, the chances that you’ll actually make it all the way home without said baby waking up and demanding nourishment? Slim to NONE. Bottle or breast, you can automatically add at least a half an hour to every trip.
- After going to a zillion prenatal doctor’s appointments, then staying for several days in the hospital, then having at least one weight check after you and baby are discharged, AND a one-week check-up for baby, did anybody else kind feel like all of the sudden, you were on your own?! I have now given birth four times, and after that one-week check-up, when the doctor tells me that I don’t need to bring the baby back in for several more weeks, I still get a little anxious, I’ll admit. How many things could happen in those few weeks??
- Any reaction you have to anything, big or small? I’m sure it’s not the hormones talking…
- During the first two weeks, your life becomes totally consumed with HOW MUCH YOUR BABY WEIGHS. My little man is small, and even though the breastfeeding seemed to be going well, he wasn’t back up to his birth weight at two weeks old (like he was “supposed to be”). In fact, he hadn’t gained any weight in the week since we last had him weighed. Did I already mention hormones? They may have been a little out of control when I saw the scale and talked to the doctor. We’ve had to have him weighed five times since we got home from the hospital, and only the first weight check was very successful. I will be thrilled when he starts gaining weight and we can move on. I know he’s healthy, and I know he poops and pees ALL THE TIME, so why isn’t he gaining weight?
- Speaking of pooping and peeing? Yeah. Can you say “another all-consuming topic for parents of a newborn”?
- As the parent of a newborn, it’s amazing how excited you can get about the grossest things. Besides all of the poop, have you ever really thought about the umbilical cord stump? I mean, really thought about it? Eww. But you feel like throwing a party when it dries up and falls off. (Of course, the umbilical cord itself is a miraculous entity of nourishment, but still…it’s gross)
- Your body is not your own. If you’ve breastfed at all, I’m sure you remember that aspect of it very, very well. But when you give birth, whether it’s natural, vaginal with drugs or c-section…your whole body becomes this thing that you can’t control. You can’t control the horrible gas, or the pain, or the constipation that feels like labor all over again. You can’t control the leaky nipples, or your emotions or the times and places that you accidentally doze off because you’re SO.VERY.SLEEP.DEPRIVED.
- It’s amazing how the same things you now have to do every day can go from a joyous act of bonding to a chore that exhausts your entire being. Yeah, I’m talking about breastfeeding again. I know, I know. Of course, it’s those hormones. One day, you’re lovingly nursing your baby, gazing in his eyes and holding tight to that tiny fist. The next day, you want to pull your hair out because you HAVE.NOT.STOPPED.FEEDING.THE.LITTLE.MILK.MONSTER.ALL.DAY.LONG.
- Newborns can’t smile, or talk. They just lie there, in your arms, and stare at you cross-eyed part of the time, or with their eyes closed the rest of the time. This makes them the most endearing, frustrating, cuddly, baffling, lovable creatures on the planet.
I am thrilled that the pregnancy is over, and I’ve met and fallen in love with my little man. But I can’t wait for this little lump of a man to turn into a human being.
What was life as parent to a newborn like for you?