I read on a blog where someone wrote “I wish I had a kid so that I could sit on my butt watching cartoons & write a blog.” No lies. I started thinking that if she and other people think that moms who blog sit around with their computers then they really don’t understand. It really didn’t bother me that she said, it just caught me off guard, and made me start thinking.
You know, someday, this woman may get married & they might have a baby. She might give up everything she knows and understands to be a mom (working or SAHM.) It will flip her entire world upside down. When her life revolved around shiny cars, fun purses, cute shoes, date nights, & sleeping in, she will quickly discover that her life is about diapers, feedings, diapers, sleep deprivation, diapers, doctors appointments, diapers, spit up, diapers, isolation and did I mention diapers?!
Oh yes, her life will be about beautiful moments too. Moments of kisses, first waves, first solid foods, first steps, hugs, first words, smiles, laughter, precious moments of reading books, cuddling, laughter, backyard fun, birthday parties, and figuring out how to enjoy a date night even though you miss your kid so much hurts while he is at home with grandma. Yes, there are beautiful and amazing moments too.
But she might find that she’s the only one of her friends parenting. Or her friends who are parenting don’t live in the same town. So she finds herself a little isolated, a lot of lonely, and she wishes that she could have another mother she can talk to about the cruddy stuff & the awesome stuff. So one day she opens up her computer and finds a blog that a friend in real life actually writes. On that blog she sees a button flashing that links her to over 1000 mommy blogs.
In one click her entire world opens up. So she decides that she can do this too. She opens a blogger account because it’s free & easy. She writes her first post. She signs up at networking sites with other women bloggers. She gets her first comment. She starts visiting blogs every day. She finds herself reading stories about days just like the one she had yesterday. She’s laughing, she’s crying, she’s laughing & crying at the exact same time while reading posts.
Now, she wakes up in the morning thinking about what her next post will be about. She wonders if she has any new comments. She reads that comment, that comment leads to an email, an email leads to many emails, which lead to friendships. She’s also smiling a little bit more during the day, she finds that she has something that is 100% her own and it’s wonderful. She doesn’t have to share it. She finds that it’s a flexible where she can write at 8:00 am or midnight (and she even writes about those diapers.)
Now she’s not so lonely. She’s not so isolated. She has other mothers to tell about her day, to listen to, and gets to know herself as “MOM.”
We “mom bloggers,” say it proudly, are a pretty awesome group of women. We share stories, we listen to stories, we learn about our differences, our similarities, we open doors to new opportunities for each other & ourselves.
Yes. That woman just didn’t understand. Someday, she may be a mom blogger. And someday we will be ready to hear her story of new mommyhood.