Yesterday, I was watching The View. I love to watch the view, but only on the days there are hot topics. I never watch when they aren’t discussing things that just really tick me off-I think I’m secretly addicted to just getting blood boiling pissed off at all the different opinions. I love to hate those women. Anywho…
While I was watching the show, Aaron Sorkin, the writer of the movie, The Social Network, (and A Few Good Men & the tv show The West Wing) was on the show promoting it. He was asked by one of the women if facebook has helped create relationships or just made them worse. He said “It [facebook] was a device that was meant to bring us closer together. I disagree with that […] I think it’s pushing us further apart. I think that socializing on the internet is to socializing as to what reality tv is to reality.”
So I pose the question: Is Online Socializing REAL socializing?
I think that if your only friends are online, then yes, his statement is true. If your whole world is so obsessviely revolved around your online social media, then you need to at least take your computer to your local Starbucks & use the wifi there just to interact with some “In Real Life people.”
But, I disagree with his statement. Do I keep in touch with all 900 plus facebook friends that I have? No. Obviously, I don’t have 900 best friends. But facebook has allowed me to keep in touch with people I would have never talked to ever again. It has opened doors to girls I thought were too mean to even be counted as human beings let alone friends in high school but have grown into wonderful women who I actually enjoy keeping in touch with.
Facebook allows me to see small insights into people I wouldn’t normally get to see. For example, favorite music, books, quotes, small status updates, etc. It has also let me determine if a person is really who they say they are. Trust me, if you look close enough, a person is revealed through the things they write on facebook. I know people who have been expelled from universities, fired from CAREERS, dumped/divorced because they were caught cheating, etc all from facebook. You have to walk a thin line with it (twitter & blogging too.)
I like facebook. It doesn’t dominate my life. It isn’t the only place I keep up with friends. But I do keep in touch with aunts, uncles, godmothers, grandmothers, friends, cousins, sisters, & brothers. If you are careful with it, like all things in life, then it can be a great positive.
Don’t get me started on how much of a positive influence I think blogging can have in a person’s life. Before I started blogging, I was a frustrated new mom, with no hobby because it was too hard to get out of the house to do the things I did before I had a kid, I was overwhelmed with responsibility, overwhelmed with the fact that I felt completely ALONE in motherhood. Blogging has opened doors for me that I don’t ever want to close again.
So, Mr. Aaron Sorkin. I’m sorry, I disagree with you. Maybe if I was famous Hollywood writer making millions of dollars, jetting all over the world, meeting famous people (Tom Cruise, Jack Nicholson, Demi Moore, Justin Timberlake, Martin Sheen just to name a few), having people blog about ME, then I wouldn’t need a blog or facebook or twitter. But I think for the general populous, social media isn’t such a bad thing.
What do you think?