I pretty much have outgrown MTV. I haven’t watched “Real World” or any of the challenge shows IN YEARS! I can’t relate or identify with any of their stuff, I’ve moved on to adult things (YIKES! Am I an adult?!) So, I have no idea how I started watching the first season of MTV’S 16 & Pregnant (which is now Teen Mom) but I did & began following Catelynn, Maci, Farrah, & Amber in their journey as very young first time mothers.
I know that our situations were/are completely different. I’m almost 9 or 10 years older than each of them, married, have made it through college, but I was also going through all of those first time parenting moments that they were. Like figuring out how our schedules were changing, how our lives were turned upside down with bottles, diapers, midnight feedings, & all the other craziness that motherhood brings with it.
I love watching all the girls now, but the couple that drew me into the show was Catelynn & Tyler. If you haven’t watched the show, Catelynn & Tyler gave their daughter, Carly, up for adoption. They made a decision that I couldn’t relate to at this point in my life. But I used to always say if I had ever been in their position, that adoption would have been the choice for me. Then again that was just me making declarative statements that I honestly had no clue about (don’t we all make those?!)
I think what this young couple did was so very brave, so very smart, & so very selfless. They both come from very dysfunctional backgrounds, that much is evident just looking at their parents. Catelynn’s step-father (who is also Tyler’s biological father–hello dysfunction!) is in & out of jail & rehab, there has been drug & alcohol abuse in the home, cussing, screaming, yelling, fighting, and many other things that are so unstable for anyone, let alone an infant.
They chose to keep their daughter out of that environment so that they could break the cycle of abuse. It was courageous, it was inspiring & was the right thing to do. And I don’t understand why in the world they get so much crap for it? I was googling them a few months ago just to see if there were any updates about how they are doing & how they are handling the whole situation and I saw some shocking comments.
Comments that say how disgusted people are with them for giving away their child, how they are terrible people for even being on the show; “DON’T YOU KNOW THEY AREN’T PARENTS! THEY GAVE THEIR CHILD AWAY! HOW IS THAT INSPIRING? THEY ARE DISGUSTING!” Even their parents say these things to them. Frankly, it leaves me stunned…The home & life that their daughter now has is beautiful, stable, DRUG FREE, and the list of positives could go on forever.
I have absolutely no idea if I would have made the same choice as them if I were in the exact same situation. Fortunately, I will never know what it’s like to be in their shoes. But I still applaud them & I cheer them on (and all mother’s who make this decision whatever their reasons) in this journey of their own version of “parenthood.” I hope they always know they did the right thing. It may not be for everyone, it may not be for you or for me, but it was obviously what was best for them & for Carly.
And yes, I will be following them in Season 2 of Teen Mom (it debuted last night!)