I came across this video a couple of days ago as I was looking throughÂ my Facebook feed about toys for girls that aren’t marketed towardsÂ all things pink, dolls, & cooking. Watch it, it’s a short 2Â minute video, & it’s awesome!
EverÂ since having a girl, I have been really focused on making sure thatÂ she knows she is not limited by her gender. When I had just had O,Â I remember reading this blog post on Huffington Post about this momÂ who has all boys & then finally had a girl.Â SheÂ said she wasn’t raising a Princess, she’s raising a futureÂ PRESIDENT. And that attitude resonates with me. I loveÂ it. My daughter (& my son), are both being raised to knowÂ that they are not bound to their genders. I’m not saying that myÂ girl won’t have a Disney Princess birthday party if she wants oneÂ & that she doesn’t wear pink (Hello, LOVE ME SOME PINK!),Â but if she ever asks for a Thomas the Train party, she’s going toÂ get that too.
You see, my daughter will be who she wants to be. IÂ want her to know that her choices are limitless & anythingÂ a boy can do she can do too. My parents’ girls were playing sports, we were hiking in the woods, fishing,Â hunting, camping, you name it, we did it. We have a running joke atÂ home that our dad treated his girls like boys because we did allÂ the heavy lifting. We were never, NOT ONE TIME, held back becauseÂ of our gender. And I will be the exact same way with my daughter!
Now, let’s flip that coin & talk about raising a boy. LboyÂ is all things boy, he loves cars & trains, trucks,Â monsters, he wants to wrestle & sword fight, pick up bugsÂ & dig for worms. But, he also likes to play with kitchenÂ sets, he’s interested in cooking, he thinks that new clothes areÂ fun & he’s known for thinking that O’s baby doll is prettyÂ cute. I told someone one time that I was considering buying LboyÂ one of those play kitchens for Christmas & I was, honest toÂ goodness met with, “You mean, you’re going to tell your son it’sÂ okay to be a sissy?”
[Blank stares]…… Seriously? Can you pleaseÂ tell me how EmerilÂ Lagasse is a sissy because he’s an executive chef? Or howÂ my friend’s husband is a sissy because he does all the cookingÂ because he enjoys it? I’m sorry, but I’mÂ not sorry that I think it’s a stupid attitude my son can’t playÂ with a kitchen set. This isn’t 1913, where a man gets marriedÂ & his wife cooks for him 3 meals a day. This is 2013, thereÂ is no guarantee my son will marry, there is no guarantee his wifeÂ will want to do all the cooking when/if he does get married. My sonÂ will not be bound to the stereotypes of his gender either.
If Lboy wants to be a hair stylist or aÂ male ballet dancer, then I say go for it (yes, I have a male hairÂ stylist who is a runner, mountain biker, has a gorgeous wife, etc,Â he just prefers being a hair stylist to his former “manly” job.) IfÂ my daughter wants to be a doctor & my son wants to stayÂ home with his kids? BRAVO! Way to go to each of them for knowingÂ what they want. If my son wants to be a lawyer & myÂ daughter wants to stay home with her kids? BRAVO! I say more powerÂ to them for pursuing a path that works forÂ their families.
In the meantime, Lboy can likeÂ purple, O can play with trucks, but the minute one of them wantsÂ something camo, I’m totally out. We’re going to have a problem withÂ that for sure. 😉
What do you think about gender assigned