I think that the real victim in usurping is the hubs. I am constantly focused on Lboy. When I have a spare thought I try to focus on Giorgio (the dog.) When I have a spare thought after that I try to do something for myself. And you see where I’m going. Poor hubs. In light of that fact, I thought that I would write about him.
Todd aka Timothy Phatness (long story about the name, but yes, I call him Phatness) & I met on May 24, 2006 in the airport on our way to Mexico for a six week study abroad trip. He instantly got on my nerves. He just got under my skin maybe because he just looked so preppy & annoying. But probably because he was gorgeous & I knew I couldn’t have him.
We didn’t talk until the Mexico City airport. I asked him his name, silently thought to myself that his last name was weird, and thought he was a snob. He only gave me one word answers to all my questions & then he would just sit there quietly, as though we weren’t even having a friggin’ conversation.
Somehow over the course of the next few days he, my roommate, and I all ended up going to the movies and after that I didn’t think he was as much of a loser. He was actually quite funny & still extremely cute (did I mention that already?!) I was in total denial that I was crazy for him, I literally thought we were just friends. Besides he was into someone else & yes, I had a boyfriend (gasp) and I didn’t think he would like me anyways. DENIAL.
After a few much needed rescues in MX by Phatness (ask me sometime about my host dad who was beating my host mom–literally beating her) I knew I wanted to marry a man like him–still at this point I’m thinking he & I are just friends and I’m wondering where can I find someone like him to be with? I should have known at that point, I mean HELLO he was staring me in the face the whole time. MORE DENIAL.
When I got back to the states I went to my home, he went to his 3 1/2 hours away. The whole time I was home I kept thinking to myself, I just want to be with the Phatness. I would wait days to call him–you know trying to be all nonchalant “Just callin’ to say hey” kind of stuff when really I thought I was going to stop breathing if I didn’t get to talk to him right then & there. It was on July 31 that it finally hit me that I wanted to be with him and when I made this announcement to my mom & best friend their responses were, “DUH!” My mom told me that she had picked him out at the airport for me & that she had been silently praying & hoping Todd & I would end up together. The x-bf even told me that the minute he saw Phatness that he knew there was going to be trouble! haha So, everyone knew it but us! LIKE I SAID, DENIAL.
A few months later we ended up back in the same town, my boyfriend was gone, Todd’s interest was out of the picture, and there was no one else for me except Todd. This was September 2006, we were engaged by that December, & six months after that we were married on June 9.
Flash forward 3 years from May 24, 2006 to May 24, 2009 and our son was born–the exact day that Todd & I had first met & gotten on each other’s nerves. lol If that isn’t destiny then I don’t know what is. From the time we met to now it has been nothing but a whirlwind. We now have a mortgage, a dog, a child, utility bills, homework, stress, love, arguments, laughter, happiness–a life together. And it all started with him irritating the heck out of me in that airport!